Considering adoption as one of your options around this unexpected pregnancy?
Adoption may or may not be for you. It may feel overwhelming. We understand. The good news is you are not alone and there are so many great resources available to you in making a decision that is right for you and the tiny human growing inside you.
The first step in this or any decision around your pregnancy is to gather good information.
Adoption provides an opportunity to continue pursuing the life goals and dreams you have while allowing the 9-month pregnancy process to complete in your body. Adoption is an opportunity to move forward with your life while also seeing your child live out their potential in the family you chose for them.
You may have been told that adoption is a selfish choice. That could not be further from the truth. Adoption is an amazing and brave alternative to an abortion or parenting when you aren’t ready.
The most empowering part is that you are in control. You get to decide which adoption professionals to work with and even the prospective adoptive parents:
- You will be able to focus on your needs and determine the type of adoption and family you are most comfortable with
- You can choose an advocate to support you
- It can provide you peace of mind for optimal mental health
- Adoption is completely free for you
Did you know that talking to an adoption agency does not commit you to that decision? These types of visits are free and available to you even if you think you couldn’t possibly consider an adoption. This free conversation will simply give you a chance to gather more information.
When you are considering an adoption, you review which adoption plan is right for you! Some choose to have an open adoption where they can stay connected in an organized way. Others choose to have a closed adoption where all information on both sides is completely confidential. Others may choose a mixture of both called a semi-open adoption.
What is the difference between open, semi-open, and closed adoptions?
The amount of information, confidentiality, and access between the birth mother, adopted child, and adoptive parents that is shared before, during, and after the adoption.
How do I know which type of adoption is right for me?
Ask questions. Gather information. Talk with a trusted advisor and friend. Usually, the right option is the one that gives you peace.
What is the legal process of adoption?
Adoption is the legal termination and reassignment of parental rights of a child. The process is finalized in court and considered legal. We recommend you consult with a professional for the proper next steps in your adoption decision.
The waiting period and adoption process is different in each state. Your local pregnancy center can recommend a few adoption agencies in your area or bring one of them into their facility to meet with you.
How does adoption affect my child?
The decision to place a child for adoption is a brave and loving decision. An open adoption typically provides the most peace of mind for those concerned about the adjustment and interests of the child. Most adoption agencies will provide you many tips on how to ensure the adjustment goes well and can be a positive experience for everyone involved.
Is it irresponsible to make my child someone else’s responsibility?
Focusing on you and your health is responsible. Wanting the best for your child is responsible. You may realize the timing is not right for you, but it might be for someone else. Adoption is mature, selfless, responsible, and a decision in which you can be proud.
What is an independent adoption?
An adoption solely using an attorney without the involvement of an agency is called an independent adoption. The decision to have an independent adoption is not common but it is an option. The adopting couple will still have to do a home study with an agency to ensure the child being placed is going to a safe and prepared home. Most birth mothers find comfort in working with an agency to help them navigate their plan.
Should I use an agency when making an adoption plan?
You get to choose. Either way there are traditionally no costs to you at all. The pros in using an agency are the ability to have an advocate and some level of privacy as you screen through prospective families for your child. We recommend doing significant research as you decide to go independent or utilize an agency.
Can you refer me to an adoption agency?
We do not refer directly to abortion providers or adoption agencies. We are not medical professionals or legal authorities and therefore all information on this website is not to be used as a final decision or considered a recommendation for treatment.
Our best advice is to start with a full FREE medical verification of your pregnancy at our Benton Location (270-527-4111) or our Eddyville location (270-601-5075). Once you can confirm the pregnancy and how far along you are they can answer all your questions about adoption, abortion, and parenting.